To Be or Not to Be Posted on Facebook

To Be or Not to Be Posted on Facebook

To be or not to be posted, as Facebook grows so does the content you can find on it. Not always is it good content, or really anything you would want to read or see about a friend. There is a thing called too much information and while posting on Facebook you really need to ask yourself if you want just anyone to read the content you posted. To many times you will be angry with a spouse, or another family member and spout off about the grievance you have with that person. Before all is said and done, your spouse has read your outrage, which only fuels their own, your friends, their friends, your family and their family are all taking sides over an argument that should have never been aired for everyone to see. All too soon people are upset with the person that wrote about the problem, or angry with the person whom you have so carelessly written about. The situation is then blown all out of proportion. Family problems should be discussed with the people who are involved in the spat, but never aired in public. Even if the couple or persons that had the spat make up and go on with their lives, there may still be lingering hard feelings from those who have been dragged into the spat by reading what the person wrote.

Another situation is writing about what you and your partner did the night before, I’m sorry but this is the last thing I really want to read about. I don’t want to read how well he/she was in bed or they left you lacking and you have no desire to repeat the experience. This is something that should be between two adult people without any outsiders. This includes porn pictures and videos. Drunken parties including pictures should also be left off Facebook, pictures of your friends as well as yourself. If your family and friends would be embarrassed to show them around, then the pictures should not wind up on the Internet highway for co-workers, potential bosses, or someone’s spouse and children to see. Realize who your audience is or may be.

The definition of diplomacy is: (How to tell a person to get lost, in such a nice way they look forward to the trip.) Author is unknown. Do not insult your family and friends by using cuss words to express your feelings and thoughts. Learn what a thesaurus is for look up words in a dictionary; find some other way to express yourself. Crude and rude jokes are also another thing that should be well thought out before putting them on your Facebook. Once again think about who your audience may be, do you have children under eighteen years of age that has access to your page, would the joke be appropriate for them to see and read.

There are many things that should not be posted on Facebook or any other web pages that people read, There was one I did read that said that posting your ex-spouse’s picture on Facebook should not be done and although I do agree that posting one of him/her with out family, children or friends would be in bad taste, I do not feel it is in bad taste to post pictures of your family on your site, with your ex in them. It would be in bad taste to cut him/her out of the picture especially if you have children with them. They were once a part of your life, and even though they are in the past, they were still a part of your past, and if you had children with them they are still in your life whether you care for them or not. Chances are your children still love them. So to exclude them would be in worse taste. If you have a man/woman friend that does have a problem with one of the pictures that includes your ex, then discuss the problem he or she has with the photo.

I would say the most important factor to posting on Facebook or any other site for that matter is common sense, use it. Think about what you would like to read on your family and friend’s sites and post accordingly on your own.